Facebook. I have a love/hate relationship with this awesome piece of technology.
Almost four years ago, my husband changed careers, and that meant that we would be doing a little bit of moving around. The first move wasn’t too bad. My oldest was nearly thirteen and he adjusted pretty well. We had been homeschooling until that point and decided this was a good time, for many reasons, to put them in school.
However, a little over a year later we were asked to change locations. By this time my second had turned thirteen and my oldest was fourteen and a half. This move was horrible. They were not adjusting. They missed their friends. A social life is extremely important at their age, and they were devastated. So, we decided to let them open up Facebook accounts in order to keep in touch with the people they dearly missed.
Facebook has been a good way for them to keep up with their friends and we had to move again over Christmas break.
We had and still have a couple of really strict rules. They are to use Facebook in our presence. We are to have the password to their accounts, and yes, we are occasionally on their page, checking things out. The kids, amazingly, agreed to this without any arguments.
Over the past two and a half years, we have had to ask them to unfriend or unfollow some of their Facebook friends. Luckily it has never been anyone they were particularly attached to. They have also done some unfriending on their own.
Facebook has helped my kids stay in touch. On the other hand, there are so many people who don’t have the same morals that we try to uphold in our home. These people post some pretty heinous things and think that it’s okay. Forget that they have children as “friends.” There are times when I want to boot Facebook out of our house, completely.
Many people may disagree with our strict rules, and that’s okay. We each parent in our own way. I hope that I am raising children who, when they become adults, have a firm knowledge of right and wrong and can stand up for what they know to be right. That is one of my biggest goals in the choices I make regarding my children.
How do you keep your children safe and manage social media? I would love your input. Thanks for reading!